Do I need a life coach?
Before you go out and spend a lot of time and money on finding a life coach, it is a good idea to assess whether or not you actually need one.
The first thing you need to understand is what a life coach is and is not.
They are someone who can help you…
- Gain clarity on important issues in your life such as your career, finances, relationships, health, business, and overall well-being
- Challenge you to overcome self-limiting beliefs & negative thought patterns that are holding you back
- Be held more accountable for the things you are committing to accomplish so that you don’t give up when you get burnt out
- Face your fears in a safe and comfortable way so that you don’t feel overwhelmed
- Make better decisions that align with your purpose and vision so that you don’t get off track
- Stay more focused and disciplined on the tasks that really drive the most results so that you don’t waste time
- Overcome obstacles that can be slowing down your progress in life
- Develop better habits and rituals so that you will create more momentum and faster results
- Transition through difficult moments in your life by helping you see things from a different perspective
- Stay motivated and inspired when you would otherwise feel hopeless or lethargic
- Find peace and serenity when going through difficult challenges that can make you feel heavy or stressed out
A life coach will not…
- Diagnose or treat any disease or ailments such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, ADHD, bipolar disorder, panic attacks, obesity, and so on
- Give you a prescription for any type of drug or medication
- Provide any types of talk therapies that deal with past traumatic emotional issues or wounds that only a trained psychologist or psychiatrist would provide
- Take on the responsibility of living your life for you by making decisions that you should be making
Is coaching right for me?
One of the most common mistakes that people make when they try to find a life coach is that they think that as soon as they get one, everything in their life will just get better overnight.
Once you begin working with a coach, that is where the work really begins.
Whatever challenges you are facing right now has taken many years (maybe your entire lifetime) to create.
This means that you have a set of bad habits or issues that you now need to address and look at.
This will take the willingness on your end to be vulnerable and honest.
The good news is that a life coach will help you address all of these things in a way that feels comfortable and safe by moving at your own pace.
You should only hire a life coach if you are willing to be honest with yourself about your shortcomings and will roll up your sleeves and do the hard work necessary to grow.
Coaching is perfect for you if you are…
- Unhappy and unsatisfied with where you are currently at in certain areas of your life
- Feeling stuck and are not sure what to do next
- Ready to take massive action to accomplish and achieve your goals
- Feeling down or confused about certain situations happening in your life
- Stuck at a dead end job and are not sure how to find your passion or purpose
- In a bad relationship where you are not appreciated or satisfied
- Overwhelmed with everything that is going on in your life and need someone to help sort it out
- Lacking confidence and have low self esteem and what to feel better about yourself
- Unsatisfied with your body or overall state of health and well-being
What do I want to accomplish?
When searching out a life coach it is important to spend some time getting clear about what it is you want to accomplish.
Most coaches specialize in specific areas such as career, finances, health, relationships, fitness, and so on.
What you want to keep in mind is that most coaches who dedicate their lives to specific areas become experts in that topic.
While the “coaching method” can be applied to almost any area if your life, it’s good to find someone who specializes in the specific area you need help with.
Also, when you are clear on what it is you want to accomplish, it makes it much easier for a potential coach you are looking for to tell you whether or not they may be a good fit saving you time and money on your search.
That being said, if you are unsure about what it is you specifically want to accomplish because you just have a general feeling that “Something is missing in my life”, then you would probably be best served with a “general life coach” who focuses on all areas.
What traits do I want in a life coach?
Not all coaches are created equally.
Because you are going to be entering into a long-term relationship with someone, it is important that you also write down a few characteristic traits that you believe would best suit your personality.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself:
A. What age should they be?
Is it important that you find someone in your age range or are you open to finding someone younger or older?
B. Male or female?
Sometimes having a different sex’s point of view can be helpful. Or maybe you feel more comfortable with someone of your own sex.
C. What adjectives best describe the person that fits your personality?
Empathic, sensitive, assertive, confrontational, playful, direct, wise, grounded, etc…
It’s important that you spend some time thinking about who your ideal coach is so that it matches your vibe.
D. Do I want someone local or online?
Many coaches are now offering online life coaching via phone, video, Skype, chat, text, and email.
The benefits of this type of service is that it makes it easier for you to get your coaching from the convenience of your home or office.
Long gone are the days where you need to be stuck on traffic wasting an hour out of your busy day to drive to and from your coaches office.
However, some people prefer going to an office because they feel it provides a space away from constant distractions that could inhibit their ability to get the most from their session.
See also: Interview questions to ask a life coach
How much am I willing to spend on a coach?
The price of coaching can range anywhere from $25 to $1000 an hour.
As the saying goes…”You get what you pay for”.
Yes, there are many coaches who provide their services for very little, and usually (not always), these are coaches who are just starting out and are not as good as others.
So you might be asking yourself…”What would I get from someone who charges a lot for their services?”
Generally (not always) a coach who charges more does so because of their level of expertise.
For example, someone who has dedicated twenty years of their life to a specific topic will charge more than someone who has spent three years.
Just like a massage therapist, a doctor, or dentist, coaches who have more experience will charge more because they have the better ability to deliver their clients a far superior level of expertise.
Now with that said, this does not mean you should go out and pay those prices. Maybe your goal and challenge does not require that.
Here are some of the questions you can ask yourself…
- Does my goal or challenge require a great deal of expertise?
- How much can I comfortably afford without feeling burdened or stressed by the fees?
- Is it important to me to get results as fast as possible?
While pondering these questions, here is something else you should consider…
People who end up cutting corners or going the “cheap route” end up losing out on time and money because they then end up having to go back and do it all over again because they did not invest the right amount of money in the first place.
How much time am I willing to invest?
Depending on what it is you want to accomplish, the amount of time necessary can vary anywhere from one 90-minute session where you just needed to brainstorm a problem up to one-year where you needed to start your life all over.
The most important aspect of this question is that you be realistic with yourself about what it is that actually needs to be done.
If you are someone who has been in a difficult relationship and are not sure whether you should break up with that person or stay with them, in one “power session” a coach can help you find the clarity you need and maybe you decide that you will continue with them under certain circumstances.
You have your clarity and can now move forward.
Another example would be…
You have been in a difficult relationship with someone mostly because you have been seeking outside validation and have low self-esteem.
You discover in your consultation that you have been seeking out relationships to fill a void in your life and to mask emotional issues you have been avoiding for many years.
Something like this can easily take three to six months to address and work through.
So you must be honest with yourself about what it is you want to accomplish and then be willing to invest the amount of time it will take to get the results you seek.